Buying your first toy can feel strangely intimidating.

Even confident women often hesitate. Is this normal? What if I pick the wrong one? I'm already embarrassed and I haven't even added it to cart yet!

The truth is many women do not explore toys until midlife. And often the motivation is simple curiosity. They want to understand their bodies better.

There are a few things that make the process easier.

First, start with something simple and body safe. The quality of the toy you choose has a big impact on your experience. You want something that is easy to use and made with medical grade silicone. This is recommended because it is non porous, easy to clean and gentle on sensitive tissue. You can be confident with Lusté as we only use body safe materials in our sexual wellness products.

Second, consider what type of stimulation you are curious about. If you find clitoral stimulation easier to respond to than internal stimulation, we would recommend our beginner friendly toys like the Lusté Whisper, small but mighty! or the Air Pulse to focus on external pleasure first.

If internal pleasure is more your style, we would suggest beginning with the Lusté Reclaim before advancing to the Air Pulse Dual Reclaim (when you're ready for it!)

Or if you're still not sure, our Ritual Kits will help you at every level, from beginner with our Awaken Ritual Kit or even our intermediate Ignite Ritual Kit if you're ready for something a little more. They are a beautiful starting point, focusing less on climax and more on reconnecting with yourself through sensation, touch and guided prompts.

Last, but not least ALWAYS add lubrication. A good water based lubricant like Lusté Veil reduces friction and makes exploration much more comfortable. If we're being completely honest, its benefits are endless; It supports arousal, improves nerve stimulation, maintains blood flow and helps the nervous system stay relaxed. Basically, lubrication creates the physical conditions where orgasm becomes easier to achieve. And who doesn't want that?!

It's time we learnt what our bodies are capable of feeling. And let's make it fun along the way!